Early Bird Registration Now Open for the Urban Family Life Training Seminar
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Urban Family Life Training Seminar:
July 5th to July 7th 2019.
Arrive 4 pm to 6 pm July 5th. Depart 4 pm July 7th
Peace Kingdom Center, Harpers Ferry, WV.
For Couples plus singles seeking a godly spouse.
You will:
- Learn how to set up a ministry to guide youth and young adults toward godly marriage.
- Discuss the most important points in preparing for a godly marriage.
- Review the benefits of sexual abstinence before marriage.
- Meet young adults with a similar mindset as yours.
- Understand God's ideal for marriage
- Understand what the nature of the Fall of Man is.
- Understand the importance of lineage.
- Enjoy mountain top scenery, fresh air and recreation.
Register Now to enjoy early bird savings until May 31. 2019.
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No commentsSilk and Antrim Show: Richard Urban on Vaccine Choice in West Virginia
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I appeared on the Silk and Antrim radio show on November 17, 2018. My segment on Vaccine Chice starts at 15:48. Thanks to Jane Silk for having me on the show. Hopefully I can return to discuss this crucial topic more.
Listen to the Silk and Antrim show (right click this link to download the show and select "save link as" or "save video as"):
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The Abstinence Movement Is Sweeping America-Part 2
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Delaying sex makes for a more satisfying and stable relationship later on, new research finds, according to an article by Jeanna Bryner. Live Science Managing Editor
The research shows that couples who had sex the earliest had the worst relationships later..
“What seems to happen is that if couples become sexual too early, this very rewarding area of the relationship overwhelms good decision-making and keeps couples in a relationship that might not be the best for them in the long-run,” study researcher Dean Busby, of Brigham Young University’s School of Family Life, told Live Science.
The work by Mr. Busby was published in the Journal of Family Psychology.
There are two ways of thinking about the timing of sex and relationship quality. Some say sex is essential in an early relationship since couples can see how good their sex is. Others say couples who delay or abstain from sex early in their relationships allow communication and other societal pressures to be the basis of their love relationship.
The research focused on the timing of conjugal relations. They studied 2,035 heterosexual individuals married for the first time. Participants reported when they first had sexual relations with their partners. They also were evaluated how well they expressed empathy and understood their partners. The study questionnaire looked at relationship satisfaction and stability.
Study participants were put into three groups Those having early sex, late sex, and waiting until marriage Relationships turned out better the longer a person waited to have sex, up until getting married. Those with who had sex before a month had the worst outcomes. Those who waited until marriage related relationship stability as 22 percent higher. relationship satisfaction as 20 percent higher, sexual quality as 15 percent better, and communication as 12 percent better.
View the full article here.
Urban Life Training created an abstinence-centered curriculum, available at its website www.urbanliferaining.org. You can check it out there and help other teens and young adults by subscribing and using its materials.
The curriculum includes the complete STAR (Students Teaching Abstinence and Responsibility) Leadership Training program.
The second week of the Star Leadership Training contains a sermonette by Pastor Hyung Jin Moon talking about absolute good sex. Good sex is sex God can approve of. It is not sex outside of marriage.
A slide presentation on protecting your future focuses on how one can achieve success honestly. Athletes can achieve success without using steroids. The presentation talks about how one can achieve happiness that will last and how to experience true freedom. How to determine and achieve life goals is discussed, as well. The question “Are you ready to be a mother?” is looked at. An activity using masking tape to illustrate the reaching of a goal is prepared.
Pornography is shown, for some boys, to replace developing real relationships with real girls/women. In such a case it will be difficult to have a successful relationship with a future spouse. A review of 33 studies found that watching pornography, especially hardcore of violent porn, is linked to bullying among male college students. What can be done to stop bullying is discussed.
The consequences of STDs are shown. One example is a slide of Sheila Green, who was HIV infected through drug use. Her son, Robert, who was six-years old at the time was born HIV infected.
One approach to the STD problem that you hear about is so called “safer sex,’ defined as the consistent proper use of a latex condom every time you have sex. How much protection do condoms provide during real sexual relations? One in five teen girls using condoms became pregnant within one year. A study in the journal from the Johns Hopkins School of Public Health reported about 204 HIV-infected men and their female partners who were not infected at the beginning of the study. During the 17-month period, among those who abstained from sex, none became infected. However, there was a one in four HIV infection rate for those using a condom consistently.
If you want more information about this curriculum go to urbanlifetraining.org or contact Richard Urban at 202-544-5081.
The Abstinence Movement is Sweeping America-Part 1
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Do you or the youth in your life want to remain abstinent until marriage? You’re not alone. Evangelicals are holding Purity Balls where teen-age girls pledge to wait until marriage to have sex, according to an online article in The Sun, a News UK company, at thesunco.uk. They do this in a ceremony where fathers and daughters dress up and dance. While they are having fun and bonding the fathers and daughters agree to the abstinence pledge and the daughters receive a purity ring which will be given to the daughters’ future husband.
A teen who attended a Purity Ball in Louisiana told Barcroft TV: “The Bible says that sex before marriage is a sin and I believe that.” According to the article, the Purity Movement, which has spread across 48 states, preaches that sex before marriage is a sin and tells stories about sexually transmitted diseases and the consequences of premarital pregnancy.
Urban Life Training created an abstinence-centered curriculum, available at its website urbanliferaining.org. You can check it out there and help other teens by subscribing and using its materials.
The curriculum includes the complete STAR (Students Teaching Abstinence and Responsibility) Leadership Training program. Within STAR Leadership Training you will find Relationship Intelligence training, Peer Counseling, a New View of Fall, Video Clips for Discussion, Urban Life Videos, Other Videos for Discussion, Other Resources, Readings, The Divine Principle Diagramed Two House Lecture Manual, Spiritual Growth Principles, Pastor Hyung Jin Moon on Absolutely Good Sex, and Conclusion.
For example, an activity from Star Interfaith Leadership Training includes an activity about what consequences a teen faces after alcohol is consumed. Attendees then discuss the consequences of teen-age drinking. A slide presentation about guarding your future is given. The slide show talks about how one can achieve legitimate success though honesty. It also explains how you can create happiness in your life that will last. The presentation shows how to experience true freedom as opposed to freedom that can lead to being a slave to a bad habit or addiction. Those who are clear about their future life goals tend to be happier and more successful. So a time is provided to the attendees to write down and discuss their life goals The attendees are asked to look at how to practically accomplish those goals. Students discuss at what stage of life the majority of their major decisions will take place. Research suggests it is in the teen and young adult years of life, according to the slide presentation. The slide show warns of dream robbers including AIDS, drinking and other STDs.
If you want more information about this curriculum go to urbanlifetraining.org or This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. and 202-544-5081.
Sex Wars in Washington DC Part Three
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Abstinence Education Works! Watch and see how the work has unfolded and touched hundreds of lives in Washington DC.
Defining the Battle: Sex Wars in Washington DC Two
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A battle is going on between two different value systems. Although activist educators say that sex education policies are in the best interest of children, nothing could be farther from the truth.
Sex Wars in Washington DC: Why the Acrimony Over Abstinence Education?
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Why does abstinence-centered sex education stir up so much acrimony? Join us for this informative series on the Richard Urban show.
Is Abstinence from Sexual Activity Outside of Marriage the Expected Standard for School Age Children?
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In 1996 Congress passed the Title V abstinence education program law. This program (theoretically; in DC the funds were not actually used for abstinence education, for example) allotted funds to states that requested them for abstinence programs that had to follow these guidelines:
A. Has as its exclusive purpose, teaching the social, psychological and health gains to be realized by abstaining from sexual activity.
B. Teaches abstinence from sexual activity outside marriage as the expected standard for all school-age children.
C. Teaches that abstinence from sexual activity is the only certain way to avoid out-of-wedlock pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and other associated health problems.
D. Teaches that a mutually faithful monogamous relationship in the context of marriage is the expected standard of human sexual activity.
E. Teaches that sexual activity outside of the context, of marriage is likely to have harmful psychological and physical effects.
F. Teaches that bearing children out-of-wedlock is likely to have harmful consequences for the child, the child's parents and society.
G. Teaches young people how to reject sexual advances, and how alcohol and drug use increase vulnerability to sexual advances.
H. Teaches the importance of attaining self-sufficiency before engaging in sexual activity.
Pretty common sense, right?
Not according to almost all of the candidates for School Board in Jefferson County West Virginia running in the May 8, 2018 nonpartisan contest. At the We the People Candidates Forum on April 19,2018 at the Clarion Inn, Harpers Ferry, WV Tom Poteet, Donna Joy, Aaron Hackett, Laurie Ogden (reelected) and Kathryn Skinner (reelected) all said it was not appropriate to teach school age children that abstinence from sex before marriage is the expected standard. Only Athena Roper (newly elected) said that she was interested in that approach, but had not yet heard about it. Scott Suddoth was not present at the forum.
So, my question to the current, reelected and newly elected School Board members is; why would you not want to teach young people that the expected standard for school age children is abstinence from sex before marriage? I hope that the School Board members and others will comment below.