Teaching Sexual Abstinence before Marriage and Faithful Marriage is the Solution for Society’s Problems
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By Richard Urban
During the month of June, people of conscience and character were continually aghast at the public displays of debauchery. But going deeper than protesting drag queen shows and all sorts of displays of moral and sexual dysfunction, what is the way forward to solving the breakdown of society?
All of society’s ills are the result of the breakdown of the family. Specifically, this means that when married men and women aren’t raising children within the confines of the family, societal breakdown occurs. Even in high crime inner city neighborhoods, well over 90 percent of children who grow up in safe, stable two-parent homes do not become delinquents.
LaVar Young reports in his Blog:
"compared with "traditional families," parents of fragile families [families where the parents are not married] are more likely to have become parents in their teens, more likely to have had children with other partners, more likely to be poor, suffer from depression, struggle with substance abuse, and to have been incarcerated. They are also disproportionately African American and Hispanic.
Of the highest concern is what this means for the child, because as the number of fragile families increases, so do the number of children exposed to the unstable environments that they foster. Fragile families are shown to have harsher parenting practices and fewer literacy activities, and children of such families produce lower cognitive test scores and a have a higher incidence of aggressive behavior.
Furthermore, previous research demonstrates that children who live apart from one of their parents at some point in their childhood are twice as likely to drop out of high school, twice as likely to have a child before age 20, and one and a half times as likely to be out of school or work by their late teens or early 20s.
The consequences are devastating, not only for these children and their families, but for our communities and for our society as a whole. As a child's outcomes are compromised, the likelihood that they will continue that negative cycle into adulthood and with their own families is vastly increased. If unstable families are becoming more prevalent, the effect on future generations may be astronomic -- a harrowing potential, considering the already deepening divide between struggling urban communities and their wealthier counterparts."
Furthermore, LaVar says: "We need to reframe the issue. Rather than being about the individual, we can view most social policy as being about children and families, and the choice to make policy decisions that benefit this population."
In light of this tremendous need to focus on what is provably best for children, having stable two parent homes with both a biological mother and father, Urban Life Training is happy to promote a series of ongoing discussions between community leaders and Richard Urban on the topic of Strengthening Families and Communiites. These discussions follow up on and expand the Strengthening Families and Communities Forums.
See the discussion with West Virginia Attorney General candidate Richie Robb below.
Find character and abstinence-centered education materials at urbanlifetraining.org.
Youth are Gender Confused
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By Richard Urban
Thirty Seven Percent of High School Girls are Gender Confused
According to the Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System, 10 percent of high school boys and 37 percent of high school girls identified as being other than heterosexual, i.e. as gay or lesbian, bisexual or other/questioning. This shocking statistic shows that young people are being indoctrinated into believing that they are not simply male or female. One of the primary indoctrination grounds is in public schools. Teachers, counselors and administrators may all be involved in this process of indoctrination. This is a type of abuse in itself, causing young people and their parents and families to undergo stress, anxiety and even death, as the recent Epoch Times documentary Gender Transformation: The Untold Realities, emphasizes.
According to Breitbart.com, “More than 1,000 school districts across the United States have policies openly stating that district personnel can or should keep students’ transgender status hidden from their parents.” Urban Life Training, an organization that has been active in abstinence-centered sexual health education for two decades, has authored a resolution for Boards of Education to adopt that is based on student well-being, not political agendas. The resolution follows.
Resolution for Adoption of Character and Abstinence-Based Sexual Health Education
Whereas parents are the primary teachers of their children and whereas virtually all parents want their children to abstain from sexual activity while of school age; and being that the purpose of sexual health education is to help youth succeed in life, and whereas premature sexual activity is correlated with increased use of alcohol and drugs, poor academic performance, emotional stress, increased risk of suicide, infection with sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy;
Be it hereby resolved by (fill in name of the Board of Education) that:
The primary purpose of all sexual education curricula in (fill in jurisdiction) will be to teach the benefits of abstaining from all types of sexual activity and physical sexual contact while of school age.
Marriage will be presented as an attainable goal and the appropriate and morally acceptable place for sexual activity when we become legal adults, and also as the most beneficial arrangement for the children that may be born to married parents.
Since the discussion of same-sex attraction and gender identity is not conducive to these goals and same-sex attraction cannot be confirmed without physical sexual contact, these topics will not be included in the sexual education curriculum.
Further, the prevention of child abuse, through affirming each child’s agency, is an important goal of sexual health education.
Therefore, young children will be taught that no one should touch them in the area covered by their bathing suit. Older children will be taught that no one should touch their sexual organs or other body parts in any way inappropriately.
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By encouraging Boards of Education to adopt this resolution, we can help steer public and private education in the right direction. Teaching sexual abstinence in preparation for marriage is an antidote for transgender and homosexual indoctrination. These two types of education are like oil and water. When abstinence is emphasized, homosexual attraction and gender confusion are repelled.
Watch Gender Transformation; the Untold Realities at The Epoch Times website. Then view the discussion on “Understanding parent’s rights and stopping sexual indoctrination in public schools” here at UrbanLifeTraining.org.
Join Urban Life Training to access all of our character and abstinence-centered education materials.
We Need a Revolution of Abstinence-Centered Education
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As of 2021, 40% of births in the United States were outside of marriage. However, this does not tell the whole story. For white women, the rate of out of wedlock birth is 28%, for Hispanic women, 53% and for black women 70% (https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/unmarried-childbearing.htm). Arguably, this is the greatest factor causing racial disparities in child welfare and overall family well-being.
To break the generational cycle of outside of wedlock birth, we need a revolution of abstinence-centered education. Parents should present the expectation of sexual abstinence before marriage to their children, regardless of whether or not they abstained themselves. They should think about what is best for their children’s future, and speak honestly about their own situation.
School and community based programs can back up parents in making this revolution. In one generation this can break the cycle of outside of wedlock births, and all of the related personal and societal consequences.
According to the Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System, about 2 in 10 9th grade students have had sexual intercourse, but 6 in 10 12th grade students have had sexual intercourse. Obviously, this is very concerning. What is happening in the family, school and social environments that is influencing so many youth to become sexually active?
Certainly, a major factor is the failure to present sexual abstinence in preparation for faithful marriage as an attainable goal. Many youth, especially in urban areas, may not grow up in homes with married parents. Furthermore, they may not know anyone in their community who is married.
Schools that present only so-called “comprehensive” sex education only pay lip service to sexual abstinence. There is no substantive discussion of the many benefits of sexual abstinence in this type of sexual health education. There is also little discussion of the dangers of being sexually active.
A positive alternative is to have abstinence-centered curricula, activities and peer counseling presented to 6th grade to 12th grade students, with abstinent youth opting in to be peer counselors for their fellow students. Clubs should also be formed for youth you are committed to remaining sexually abstinent, or who want to return to sexual abstinence. This kind of education plus peer counseling and clubs is relatively inexpensive to implement when provided by third party providers.
Ideally, this would be the only type of sexual health curriculum taught. In any case, this must be presented as an alternative to all youth. It is extremely irresponsible and abusive to only provide youth with “education” that encourages them to be sexually active without explaining the risks of sexual activity and the benefits of abstaining.
We should educate our children on the benefits of sexual abstinence in preparation for faithful marriage. Simultaneously, we should point out the direct relationship between irresponsible sexual behavior and all kinds of societal chaos, such as increasing suicide rates among youth, poverty, sexual confusion among youth and young adults, and crime.
Our organization, Urban Life Training, provides abstinence-centered curricula and many other resources at urbanlifetraining.org.
Announcing UnionStation.love-The Site for Finding Your Eternal Match
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Arguably, the most important decision you will ever make is finding your marriage partner.
Meet the challenge of being the best person you can be in order to find the best person to be your eternal match.
UnionStation.love is intended for those who have remained abstinent from sex in preparation for marriage, or those who have returned to abstinence before marriage.
All participants will take a 40-day Blessing Preparation Course before making their profile at UnionStation.love. The next Blessing Preparation Course begins May 7, 2024. When you register, the Blessing Preparation online Course is included, as well as a one-year membership in UnionStation.love.
Those who find their eternal partner at UnionStation.love will receive the Blessing of Marriage in a public or private ceremony.
Those who are already married can also receive the Marriage Blessing initiated by Rev. Sun Myung Moon and his wife and can register here.
Start your journey to find your eternal match today by registering at UnionStation.love.
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UnionStation.love is a project of Urban Life Training.
Gender Transformation; the Untold Realities-Discussion
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What is behind the push to indoctrinate young public school children to reject their biological sex?
What can we do about this indoctrination?
What is the role of the church in this problem?
See the movie here: https://www.theepochtimes.com/epochtv/gender-transformation-5280005
Gender Transformation-The Untold Realities
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Join us for a screening of Gender Transformation; the Untold Realities, followed by a panel and discussion:
Strengthening Families and Communities Forum
Saturday November 18th:
10:30 a.m. to 12:00 p.m.: Screening of the documentary
Gender Transformation; the Untold Realities
12:00 p.m. to 1:00 p.m. Audience and panel discussion on:
Understanding parent’s rights and stopping sexual indoctrination in public schools.
Lunch will be served following the discussion.
Free-Registration Required:
Location: Peace Kingdom Center,
Harpers Ferry WV
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Attend live online by Zoom.
Free-Registration Required:
